When Should you ask Facebook groups for advice

When Should You Ask Facebook Groups for Advice? (And when you shouldn’t)

As moms, we have so many questions on our hearts like:

Should I have more children?

Should I move to a bigger house?

What should I do about a struggle in my marriage?

How do I know if my baby is getting enough when nursing?

What do I do about anxiety and stress?

What kind of baby car seat should I buy?

There are too many questions to list!

When you aren’t sure what decision to make, where do you go or who do you turn to?

Maybe you’re fortunate enough to have a good friend or a great husband, but sometimes you want different perspectives on the situation or maybe you need someone that has first-hand experience with your decision.

So, you might turn to Google first and have a hard time finding the answer to the very specific question for your personal life, so you turn to Facebook groups where you can join a group of moms or like-minded people who might be in the same situation as you.

When we ask other moms for advice in Facebook groups, sometimes we just want to know that we are not alone in our struggles and it is comforting to feel that support.

But a lot of times, we almost wish someone could just make a difficult decision for us! (Guilty here!)

Technology and social media can be a beautiful thing when it is used as a means to connect and gain knowledge. There are many questions that you can have answered instantly and easily!

But we have to discern what questions belong on Facebook versus what questions belong between you and God.

The voices on the internet can still be a comfort but they can also make things so much more confusing with the overwhelming advice.

When we rely so heavily on others’ opinions, we forget to rely on God for the answers.

Do we really think we are going to find the answers to our life-altering decisions anywhere else but with God?

We make things so much more complicated than they need to be because of our emotions.

The answers are usually quite simple. Most of the time we know what we should do, but we refuse to surrender to it yet. We don’t turn to Jesus because we already know deep down what His answer will be and we don’t want to hear it. (Guilty here again!)

When fearing what God wants us to do, we have to remember that God is good. Although difficult times may come or have happened, He never intends to harm you and He wants to welcome you as His daughter.

God the Father wants us to see Him as Our Parent to run to for advice. He wants to be a part of the big decisions and the small, every day moments. Don’t we want our own children to come to us for both their big and little questions instead of the voices of the world?

Instead of going online to ask for answers, turn your heart to Our Loving Father.

If you are taking the time out of your day to be on your phone, write a post, and read all the comments, then you have a few minutes to speak with Him.

We say we have no time but the truth is there are so many “pockets” of time that could be better “wasted” on Jesus.

This is when you will find your true relief from your burden and receive clear answers. If the answer is not clear, then He might be allowing you to choose. (If you think that’s what’s happening, here is further reading from Peter Kreeft to try and figure out what God is asking of you.)

I’ve learned more about life during prayer than any online resource or book.

But that also depends on what you think prayer is.

It doesn’t have to be this exhausting time of reading rote prayers. God is so happy when you just turn your heart to Him and continue an ongoing conversation. Just be honest with Jesus and ask Him the tough questions.  I learned how to pray this way with this book.

Our body and souls have a need for this stillness or silence of heart.

If you are willing to listen and give your all, you will find peace.

All of these resources (FB groups, other social media, even books!) can be used to show you what options or paths you can choose to lead,  but God holds all of the answers and goes before you on your unique path.

What may be good for someone else, might not be what He has planned for you. A random person on Facebook only sees one side, God sees all sides. He sees what was left behind and what lies ahead. His presence is in the present moment, the here and now.

He knows you better and more intimately than anyone else. He created you. He knew you before you were born. He knows what’s best for you.

And if you are willing to pursue Him, you will find He is better than Google or Facebook friends or fancy blogs, or beautiful Instagram photos…

He is the True and Living Christ.

He is the Name above all names,

The Way, the Truth, and the Life,

The Wonderful Counselor,

The Savior of the World,

The promise of the Father …

He is worthy of all praise!

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With love,


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